2010年1月20日星期三

破镜难圆

Once there was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence.

The first day, the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually grew less. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.

Finally the day came when the boy did not lose his temper at all. On hearing this, the father suggested that the boy now pulled out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son to the fence and said, “You have done well, son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar like this. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. No matter how many times you say you are sorry, but the wound is there.”

(此故事摘自Sartorius Stedim Malaysia Sdn Bhd 赠送的2010年日历中)

启示:很多时候,我都在问自己是否能原谅他的所作所为?这一段日子,我真的很痛苦。讨厌自己为何至今还放不下他;怨恨他为什么一直不信任我;埋怨自己为什么遭到他如此的对待还选择留在他的身边,赶都赶不走。经过这段日子,我考虑清楚了,得人之处且饶人,最终我选择原谅他。不过心中这根刺就算拔了,伤痕也会在。

虽然我们之间发生了很多事情,但我还是个公私分明的人。曾答应过他,只要我在槟城,就会毫无怨言地继续帮他的诊所更换零钱。

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